Until you make peace with yourself and your current condition, you’re powerless to change

Until you make peace with yourself and your current condition, you’re powerless to change. Until you say yes to what your life experience is right now, you’ll continually find yourself in a state of conflict, wanting things to be different. How can you be in harmony if you’re at war within, hurting yourself with your thoughts and behaviors? How can you effect lasting change in your life if you’re spending so much energy hating and judging yourself?
Do you believe that you and the people around you need to be perfect in order for you to be happy? The beauty and harmony that you seek in the outer world is actually within you. When you accept all aspects of yourself, you’ll discover that this includes the part of you that wants to “pig out” at lunchtime or that seeks fulfillment through food.
If you can’t come to terms with (and give love and redirection to) all the parts of you that aren’t currently on board with your goal, you’re going to hit a wall of frustration or emptiness over and over. Like a child clamoring for his mother’s attention, any part of you that you reject can take on a life of its own and act out in very destructive ways, such as out-of-control eating.
We all tend to separate and judge parts of ourselves, creating an inner environment of separation and angst. Well, you can choose to stop doing this, even if it feels unfamiliar to be at peace inside. Be merciful and love yourself, even as you’re perceiving your weaknesses.
All too often, you may forget to have compassion for your own humanity and the difficulties and challenges you face. Even if you feel disconnected from your sense of kindness and are much more in touch with cynicism and judgment, you still have the capacity to return to your true, innate attribute of love.
When you’re forgiving toward yourself, it doesn’t mean that you condone actions that hurt you or sabotage your plans. You won’t say, “Oh well, I binge on an entire bag of chips almost every night and that’s okay, so I’m not going to do anything about it.” What you’ll do is stop spending time beating yourself up and instead focus your energy on looking at some of your motivations, discovering where you’re going wrong, and figuring out strategies that can help you fulfill your own needs and achieve your heart’s true desire.

You may think that if you’re hard enough on yourself, you can force yourself to change. In fact, the opposite is true: Berating yourself gets you feeling so miserable that you give up any motivation to persevere toward your goals. When you truly honor and accept yourself exactly as you are right now, however, it’s much easier to transform your thoughts and behaviors.
~Rena Greenberg

~Positive Thoughts


Much Love!

Happy ending

This goes out to all of the people who have been broken but have been strong enough to let go. For the people who have hurt so badly that they felt they could never love again, but kept their head up.
For the people that wish loneliness wasn’t a part of them, but put up with it anyhow. For the people that are okay with taking up all of the room in the bed, even if sometimes it feels a little empty. For the people who wake up in the morning with no missed calls, but smile anyway.For the people that have wounds still healing. For the people that have so much tied to their past relationship, but break those chains to start fresh. For the people that want to look back so badly, but focus on the road ahead. For the people that pick up the phone so tempted to call, but keep their dignity intact instead.For the people that never wanted to let go, but had to. For the people that still believe in love even after all of the hurt their heart has endured. For all the people that gave up not because they were weak, but because most times it’s better just to let go.You will get your happy ending someday. Hang in there and don’t give up. Because all endings are also beginnings.

This really hit close to home... I've been feeling so lonely lately and frustrated. I know that my life definitely has gotten better since last year, but the holidays have triggered something in me. Yes, I'm thankful for my daughters, parents and grand baby but a part of me still feels empty inside. When does it go away? And can I ever live in my own place without relying on someone else? I have never done that. Someone has always taken care of me financially. And I also worry about my little guy, Milo. He's so happy living with my daughter because he has Pepe and Stela to play with. I have never seen him be so playful before. I love my little fur baby a lot. He's helped me thru some bad days. He makes me happy and loves me unconditionally. But also a little sad because he no longer has his brother. He stayed with my ex-husband. I worry about him too. My ex was never much for taking care of anyone but him. I left my other fur baby with him because he loves his daddy. And my ex asked to have him. But my gut is telling me he hasn't been taking care of him and he might not have him anymore. I shouldn't think about it but I do. I hope he's being loved wherever he is. I miss him tremendously.

~Positive Thoughts 

Positive thinking..

So, for the last 3 months or so I've been getting into the positive thinking instead of being so negative. When I'm on my way to work and before I go to bed I listen to Louis Hay. Love love her.. It's been amazing. So much wonderful things are happening. And I've also been trying to notice all the signs around me. It's always been there but I just never paid attention. Now I'm opening up my eyes to all the signs around me.

Your mind is a powerful thing.💕When you fill it with positive thoughts your life will start to change..

Work is going well. It's been a little over a month now. I've learned a lot. I really like what I'm doing and now that I have my own office it's definitely better. I'm able to concentrate better. Everyone has been so nice too. Feeling very blessed that I have a job.

Halloween was good. We actually had a lot of kids trick or treating this year. Not too many kids go around the neighborhood anymore to trick or treat. It's too scary.. But our neighborhood is really good. Everyone knows everyone. We all look out after each other.

God bless

Virginia